Therapy in a classroom

My psychology teacher is one of the greatest and wisest men alive. He doesn't know chemistry or write literature, the knowledge he has is so much more than that. He knows about life, real life happening right now. I call his class therapy because I feel like he speaks directly to me. He's blunt (which works well with me) and he cusses so everything he says is that much more powerful.

A few things I have learned from him:

Never date anyone more fucked up than you are.

• I can't tell you how much I love this. It is so often girls want to save someone, put someone back together and let me be the one to break it to you IT IS NOT OUR PROBLEM. We are not responsible for fixing other people, we can only help ourselves. You don't owe anyone anything, you are not on earth to be Dr. Phil, so stop dating someone that needs to be fixed.

Get the fuck out of here

• You will honestly learn so much and become a better person if you travel to different parts of the world. Experience new things, and live how other people live. This doesn't mean go stay at a 5 star hotel in Africa, it means sleep in a hut, eat what they eat, immerse yourself in another culture and you will end up a different person.

We are all judgemental

• We are constantly judging each other. No matter how much you would like to think that isn't true, it is. We judge each other by the food we eat, what we wear, how we look, there is NO ONE who doesn't judge another person, knowingly or unknowingly. But the more you can be aware of it, the more you can change it. 

There are three different types of relationships

• 1+1=1 Where you believe you complete each other, the whole soul mate thing, and you don't need anyone else. 
• 1+1=2 You each hold your individuality, but still believe that you only need each other.
• 1+1=3 You want three things, by yourself, them by themselves, and you two together. You get something more out of being together, your relationship is an entirely different sphere.
• If you are in a relationship with someone who wants something different than you, it is never going to work, point blank, no discussion.

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger? Bullshit

• Don't give power to terrible things that happen to you, because you created that strength, the situation didn't. The person that hurt you didn't give you strength, you made it for yourself. Give yourself credit.